Stop Beating Yourself Up

 

It has been said that I only worry about other people and not myself. Well that’s not really true. I worry on the inside. In fact I was so worried this past weekend that I barely ate and slept for 72 hours. Was it worth it? Should I have been worrying in the first place. NO, one petrifying phone call later, ( I was literally curled up in a blanket making it) I found out that I shouldn’t have been worrying in the first place. I had done nothing wrong. So how do you eliminate worry?

After my petrifying non disaster phone call I began to spring clean my house, I’ve been putting it off for ages never finding the time. Getting rid of stuff is a great way to start worrying less.

Secondly write a list of things you worry about. Notice which ones you can fix, get them thingsas soon as possible. These ones include a tidy house.

Next notice the things you don’t have control over. Is it going to rain for that picnic on the weekend. We can’t control whether it happens or not so why worry. Sometimes we can’t control everything in our lives and that’s okay.

Lastly the thing we worry over that need longterm preparation to work through them. They are neither fast to solve or something we can’t control. I hate driving. I’m scared to death of it. I sit in the drivers seat and break out into a cold sweat, my heart starts thumping a million miles an hour and vi feel like I’m going to pass out.

Why, because I was told that if I ever drove I would kill someone. Now I’ve had driving lessons and have been told I’m a great driver, cautious and need a bit more confidence, but not someone you wouldn’t want to share the road with. But I worry about ever having to drive on a daily basis. And we all have that thing we worry about but can’t seem to fix.

You know what I think? I left it too long to get back into the saddle after being put down. And now I’ve build it up into this massive big hurdle in my mind that I just can’t seem to get past. So those tricky worries on your list? Try and knock them on the head as soon as you can. Don’t let them build for years like me, they will eat you alive. Oh and if you have any ideas to make me brave enough to drive, I’m all ears.

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How to sell yourself without getting naked

If your anything like me the idea of talking yourself up or selling yourself makes you want to run away. Its not the talking bit that is the problem, in fact I could probably sell the good points of anyone else for a job and they would at least get an interview.

Its really hard for people to see their good points, the qualities that others naturally assume they already know about. We are programmed to look at our weaknesses first, we critique ourselves on a constant basis but when asked to list four good points a lot of people struggle. Take a minute and define yourself positively in a sentence, is it hard? Its like that dreaded “what’s your favorite body part question”.Unless your super body confident, and that’s awesome, its a question that people struggle to answer positively.

So how can you sell yourself to people, especially when you don’t have the benefit of face to face interaction.

Firstly you need to know who you are

What are your strengths, weaknesses and skills that you are awesome at. Everyone has traits that make them great at something. If you struggle to answer these questions ask friends, family or coworkers to answer them for you. You may find things out about yourself that you didn’t think about.

Irene Leonard has written a wonderful article about self promotion on her site. You can find it here. She explains how to nurture the confidence in yourself to gain the ability to confidentially promote oneself.

What do you struggle at when you have to promote yourself? Or do you have any advice on how to make it easier for people. Please comment below.